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Posted on 02-20-2015
Recently, this has become a big focus in my life, what it really means to love myself. As I have moved deeper and deeper into entrepreneurship, my relationship with myself has completely changed. I had no idea it needed to change, it just has over time. Yet, I seek growth all the time and I seek to let go of any personal limitations, that is, anything I notice in my consciousness that may be limiting me from fully expressing myself in all areas of my life. So why am I surprised that loving myself has been or is the key to my 'Full Expression' as Meredith Bowerman in life, love and business?
It surprises me because I never recognized that I needed to love myself. I didn't have the awareness or the knowledge that that was what I needed to do. Here are two very BIG statements that would float up from the depths of my subconscious:
Those two statements are extremely powerful! They contribute to how you treat yourself and how others treat you. As I became aware of this voice repeating these statements to my body, mind and soul, I almost stopped dead in my tracks. I couldn't believe I had been telling myself these things. Intellectually, it's silly, but on a heart and soul level, it was something I truly believed. And instead of seeking a change within, I used to seek the change outside of myself.
I sought outside recognition and validation - needed it and wanted it. I really thought that that would get me to place of confidence and value. I sought acceptance from others. Again, I thought it propel me to the next level of success or happiness. I wanted someone to love me so that I could feel worthy(of love).
It takes a lot of work to get other people to do these things for you, since they too have their personal agendas and needs that they want taken care of. Luckily, I began to catch on that it was ME that had to start giving those things to myself. The 'love' and 'worth' I wanted and craved had to start coming from within - from ME. Now that was a BIG AHA moment!
So how do you start doing that exactly? There are so many tools out there. I really believe that you have to use the ones that suit you in the here and in the now.
I am a work in progress, but I now love the work, I love the progress, I love everything about me and even appreciate the 'girl' who didn't love herself. Because it was that girl - yes that girl taught me how to love myself, how to accept ALL the parts of me I used to judge and hate, it was that girl - the unworthy and unlovable one - she was one of my greatest gifts and greatest teachers...
So what are ways that you can start loving yourself more?
Let me know in your comments below!
I read a book that referred to those bad thoughts as ANT'S, automatic negative thoughts. I agree if we let it, they can have such an uninvited impact in our lives. When I met you at the gym, I was really bad at that. I once told you that I was lazy because I always felt bad that I was never "great." You responded that the fact I was there showed I was not lazy. I don't say those things about myself anymore and it makes it a lot easier to try out new physical activities. I never allow myself to insult myself. A college teacher once told me, you have the rest of the world to call you names. Pretty much, don't join in! That's my expression of self-love.
Yes Diana, it takes practice and consistency and absolutely love your expression of self love!